Commitment is a word that has many running for the hills. In the age of hookups and the gig economy, the practical definition has taken on a new meaning.

The celebration of a 50th wedding anniversary is a party for two reasons; honoring the longevity of the commitment and celebrating the pending extinction of the graying unicorn. Party stores will only stock the 1, 5, and 10-year anniversary glitter. They will regulate the rest to the discount bin.

We don't paint our house the bold color we want because it will hinder the resale value. Cell phone and cable companies advertise the ability to change anytime. The earnest promise of childhood BFF's doesn't stand a chance of lasting after high school.

I just bought a software package with lifetime access and upgrades. They offer an excellent product, but will probably be acquired in a few years. Check the small print to determine what lifetime is the metric. A mosquito, a dog, me, or a Galapagos land turtle (193 years).

Is there a situation where commitment means a long time?

What is the expiration date for the companies devotion to quality, your loyalty to saving the animals in the shelter, the obligation to shareholders, or a pursuit of your dreams?

Two guardrails bound our commitments. On one rail, you and I are finite and must have a sense of what we can accomplish. Another rail is the fear of missing out complicated by the varieties offered. This barrier leads to an unwillingness to make a choice and move forward. Navigating between the guardrails defines our life. We find fulfillment through wise choices and managing the space between rails.

Going Further: Are you adverse to commitment, why? Was there an event in your past that comes to mind? Do you commit too quickly and not fully count the cost? Who are you most concerned about, you or the other party? Do you have a healthy balance of commitment and would those who know you best agree?